A female hookee who was doing shakara before has fallen in love with my male match for her. Now he pays her less attention and shez sad and NO they haven't had sex. What do I do?
You don't do anything. Or, scratch that, make another match for her. He just wasn't into her and that's ok- she should stop any contact to him from her end and move on.
You delivered. You hooked them up. But you cant play cupid as well. They are adults. If they really want to give it a go, they will find a way. If they dont, then they can ask you for other hookups. Its simple.
People should always take their time to read and cogitate before replying. What you need to do is to talk to the guy that the girl was not making guy for him. Sometimes previous experience do have effect on current prospect/opportunity. 2. He should relax and create that chance for her to proof herself. Lastly, pray for both of them to succeed.
I honestly didn't want to reply your comment Ani Charles, but, hey, I've lost the "bigger person" struggle so I might as well respond. Only small minded people don't realise that everyone's opinion matters hence, saying that people should "take time to read and cogitate before responding" is really a very condescending statement coming from you but also reflects how small minded you really are. Instead of simply stating your opinion, you focused first on throwing shade on other people's opinions- so, in your mind, THIS ADVICE you've given is the only way ba? To tell the man the female hookee was not "making guy"? Oga, clap for yourself you hear? Naze Chidinma, you do what you have to do after reading the various opinions proferred- I believe you wrote this to get and measure the opinions as a yardstick for your next step. Personally, I think you should let it go- like Mma Sina Chi said, you win some and lose some. Your role is to hook the people up, it is up to them to make it work. Even in everyday life where there is no matchmaker involved, people hook up and end up either falling out of like or some such thing; because you play the matchmaker does not then mean that you have to be a mediator. I think that if you want success stories, then it'd take bigger effort on your part; you'd need to look at the possible hookees you already have and compare and contrast how these personalities would match- e.g if you had a geek and had an outgoing person, you might reason that the outgoing persona would balance out the geek's personality thereby bringing some fun in the geek's life and some intellectual substance into the outgoing persona's life- Now, that might make a good match- people sometimes don't know what is good for them- this outgoing persona might never have thought a geek would be a match for her UNTIL you make that match. It is not for you to begin to pursue a man to show a woman affection- if he doesn't want to, leave him- he's not into her and she deserves better. Nukwam Cogitate abi na ruminate. I didn't mean to write this epistle nnem, e no go happen again..... #yesicanbepetty
I concur to all said but one thing that should understood is that in Africa, or maybe Nigeria we believe it's the custom of the men to go after women, so he shouldnt take it personal and just act matured and it and now she's calling him he should just click, no harm. My dear lady, give him sometime, he will come around but if he doesn't, just let it go. Better things ahead.
Babe you have done your bit. Let it be.
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ReplyDeleteBut my aim is a success marital story, letting it be is giving up and I hate giving up .
ReplyDeleteLol. Its not by lai that my dear.... Some things in life are not about giving up but about doing your bit.
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ReplyDeleteYou don't do anything. Or, scratch that, make another match for her. He just wasn't into her and that's ok- she should stop any contact to him from her end and move on.
ReplyDeleteYou delivered. You hooked them up. But you cant play cupid as well. They are adults. If they really want to give it a go, they will find a way. If they dont, then they can ask you for other hookups. Its simple.
ReplyDeleteBabe not all your hookings are gonna work the aim is to keep trying until you get a success story
ReplyDeletePeople should always take their time to read and cogitate before replying. What you need to do is to talk to the guy that the girl was not making guy for him. Sometimes previous experience do have effect on current prospect/opportunity. 2. He should relax and create that chance for her to proof herself. Lastly, pray for both of them to succeed.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Ani Charles, you have spoken well.
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcome Chisom Obinabo
ReplyDeleteYou win some you loose some...
ReplyDeleteI honestly didn't want to reply your comment Ani Charles, but, hey, I've lost the "bigger person" struggle so I might as well respond. Only small minded people don't realise that everyone's opinion matters hence, saying that people should "take time to read and cogitate before responding" is really a very condescending statement coming from you but also reflects how small minded you really are. Instead of simply stating your opinion, you focused first on throwing shade on other people's opinions- so, in your mind, THIS ADVICE you've given is the only way ba? To tell the man the female hookee was not "making guy"? Oga, clap for yourself you hear? Naze Chidinma, you do what you have to do after reading the various opinions proferred- I believe you wrote this to get and measure the opinions as a yardstick for your next step. Personally, I think you should let it go- like Mma Sina Chi said, you win some and lose some. Your role is to hook the people up, it is up to them to make it work. Even in everyday life where there is no matchmaker involved, people hook up and end up either falling out of like or some such thing; because you play the matchmaker does not then mean that you have to be a mediator. I think that if you want success stories, then it'd take bigger effort on your part; you'd need to look at the possible hookees you already have and compare and contrast how these personalities would match- e.g if you had a geek and had an outgoing person, you might reason that the outgoing persona would balance out the geek's personality thereby bringing some fun in the geek's life and some intellectual substance into the outgoing persona's life- Now, that might make a good match- people sometimes don't know what is good for them- this outgoing persona might never have thought a geek would be a match for her UNTIL you make that match. It is not for you to begin to pursue a man to show a woman affection- if he doesn't want to, leave him- he's not into her and she deserves better. Nukwam Cogitate abi na ruminate. I didn't mean to write this epistle nnem, e no go happen again..... #yesicanbepetty
ReplyDeleteJudith Judith!!! Heheheheheheheeh....."Navigate" Mehn shiiiiii
ReplyDeleteI concur to all said but one thing that should understood is that in Africa, or maybe Nigeria we believe it's the custom of the men to go after women, so he shouldnt take it personal and just act matured and it and now she's calling him he should just click, no harm. My dear lady, give him sometime, he will come around but if he doesn't, just let it go. Better things ahead.
ReplyDeleteNa today
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