I'm so grateful to those who have responded positively to my hook up ministry. Been reading comments on some of my posts and one struck me.
Someone said 'There is nothing good like building with your man, by doing so you won't be let down and you will be respected."
My question - Is this a fact or an assumptions fiction? When you meet a struggling guy and suffer with him, are you guaranteed respect, adoration, faithfulness etc in the time of plenty?
Do ready made men regard less or disrespect wives they married in plenty because they didn't hustle with them?
One earns respect so if u don't work for the respect u won't be respected
ReplyDeleteThe truth is dat in relationships or marriages dere is no guarantee or formula for it. Cos wat mite work for mr/miss/mrs A,B or C mite not work for de next person. The best formula is if u know wat works for u go for it Regardless of wat people may say or think, as far as u and ur partner are happy with ur selves no matter wat u re doing or how u go abt it den I believe dat should be okay. The important tin is dat both partners are happy and fulfilled in de relationship. #myonekoboopinion#. Continue ur good work nikky naz.
ReplyDeleteUr on point Gozie Ifegbo. There ain't no guarantee that u'll be loved more or respected or treasured more if u build with ur guy... Some guys sha... They are so 'wonderful'.... U'll be busy building with them and they will be busy scheming on how to leave u high and dry. I know of some guys who married after they were made and they respect/cherish/love their spouse alot.
ReplyDeleteThe thing there is as a lady, be a gud grl... If who comes ur way is a struggling guy, build with him and always pray to God to take control... If who comes ur way is an alrdy made guy, always pray to God,stick by him and try ur best to always bring something to d table (it mustn't be money), add value to his life... And in all always talk to God about everything...
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Beautifully put!
DeleteThis Stephanie u go sabi book well well that year o!
DeleteWhich year be dat
ReplyDeleteThat particular year. Lol
ReplyDeleteTo start with, there's no guarantee that you will make it to work tomorrow, yet we work in the faith believing and planning for tomorrow. No guarantee that you will make it from being educated, yet you wouldn't argue the importance of education. There's not even a guarantee that by the time I'm don typing this response, I'd still have fingers to hit send, yet I'm still typing. You get my drift right?
ReplyDeleteBasically I agree with Gozie Ifegbo and Stephanie Olisakwe, that there's no guarantee either way.
However, I want to mention that the topic that led to the question you're now asking emanated from another post where you had asked whether it was right to hook a young lady up with a man that was up to 30 and still lived in his father's house.
The argument from that post was only to encourage our sisters so they understand that while it may be nice and wonderful to have a guy who's 'ready-made', there's absolutely nothing wrong with going from the bottom up (i.e. giving him a chance while he still lives in his father's house, he lives in one room apartment, etc.). Neither of these two routes would guarantee the guy's respect or disrespect. That remains purely a function of the character and person of the guy in question.
I dont think dis article emanated from d post u talked abt in ur 2nd to last paragraph...
ReplyDeleteBuh I totally concur with ur last sentence... D character and person of d guy...
I think this has a lot to do with who actually an individual is personally whether a ready made man or a struggling one! Its more about one's Character, values, view about life & family, upbringing etc. In d real sense, there is no guarantee.
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