Hi Chidinma, I must admit you are doing a nice job. My challenge however, is that I am 32, unemployed and not so good looking. Do you think any man would want to marry me in this harsh economy? I feel so worthless and sad.
MY RESPONSE
With God nothing is impossible. You must first try to build your faith regardless of your challenges . Isaiah 34:16 says non shall want her mate. Hold on to that promise. There are men married to wives who are housewives/ homemakers, though I'm not a fan of that. So yes you can find a man to marry you.
About your unemployment, rather than complain, learn a skill. Stoop low and intern in a bakery or established businesses and gain knowledge for your own start up in future. Read inspirationals and good books, they have a way of broadening your horizon and strengthening your faith.
Above all LOVE YOURSELF regardless of looks. God does not make junk .Waiting to be married for someone to love you or to be happy ain't a guarantee.
If you have any advice to add, please help me tell her. Two heads are better than one.
MY RESPONSE
With God nothing is impossible. You must first try to build your faith regardless of your challenges . Isaiah 34:16 says non shall want her mate. Hold on to that promise. There are men married to wives who are housewives/ homemakers, though I'm not a fan of that. So yes you can find a man to marry you.
About your unemployment, rather than complain, learn a skill. Stoop low and intern in a bakery or established businesses and gain knowledge for your own start up in future. Read inspirationals and good books, they have a way of broadening your horizon and strengthening your faith.
Above all LOVE YOURSELF regardless of looks. God does not make junk .Waiting to be married for someone to love you or to be happy ain't a guarantee.
If you have any advice to add, please help me tell her. Two heads are better than one.
You need to believe in yourself, all ladies are beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Aside, as a lady you must develop self esteem, what you think of yourself and the way you present yourself matters
ReplyDeleteShe should be more involved in her community in the short run and possibly long run too; she should partake either in church or mosque activities. She needs to be more engaging in other to build up her self confidence and self worth, while doing this she could draw the right type of attention to herself. She would be able to exhibit qualities which would endear her to her immediate or larger community. She should also pick up reading as a self motivational tool.
ReplyDeleteThat sister has believed a lie, please tell her that she is the most beautiful person on earth. Let her stop looking for work and consider business or handiwork or even politics, advice her to try charity work and above all trust in God's ability to transform situations for good.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart(hookie) am not going to coat my words with milk and honey just to make them delicious to your ears.... You are thirty-something and no job, nne how do you take care of your personal needs biko? Maybe you have big bros n sis who dash you stipends .Plain truth is no man wants to marry an idle woman, pls stop waiting for federal govt job, get off your high horse and start something no matter how small. Sell airtime, make snacks n sell in schools,teach in schl or extra mural centers, work for little or no pay just to gather experience, etc by so doing you meet people and connect. Your looks has nothing to do with anything.
ReplyDeleteThe hard truth but a realistic comment.
ReplyDeleteLet me see her picture before making any comment
ReplyDeleteLol, even the beautiful ones with good jobs and great self esteem are not married. Some jobless drama queens with nasty attitudes are happily married. Nne, marriage is not the answer to any problem. Deal with the fact that not all persons will marry. If you marry good, if you don't,will you die before the actual death comes? Instead live your life happy and believe me,, men are attracted to happy women( every woman who smiles a lot is beautiful to most men) If you continue to look at yourself the way you do, you may eventually marry but it won't be for the right reasons. By the way, get busy, it takes your mind away from a lot of life issues
ReplyDeleteThe road to happiness is through service... Pls get busy, be committed to service and the sky will be your limit. You can join helping hAnds...just ask Chinedu Iwueke about it.
ReplyDeleteFrom conception God has deposited a virtue in you, discover that talent, gift and skills in you, that job, career that gives you passion. you may not be employed but you can employ yourself. Secondly at Gods own time you will get your husband, Thirdly pray your way to destiny. God bless you all
ReplyDeleteHappiness doesn't have destination.u may still not be happy after marriage. Love yourself, work on ur low self-esteem & be happy. If u re not happy with urself now u can't be happy married. Start something and become financially empowered.
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