A young handsome man reached out to me appreciating my efforts on Solo2hooked. He slowly opened up about his issues with his fiancee who dosen't like his job. He actually works offshore and spends a month there regularly as he is currently on a shell contract, then 2 weeks onshore and works from the company's office.
His fiancee is worried about the risks associated with the job since his company is involved in drilling crude and any explosion could spell a disaster. She is also worried about the the time away spent offshore.
He offered her 10k per day for each time he would be offshore to appease her, but she declined and is still making trouble. ( Na him I punch calculator as Igbo girl wey I be. Nna MEHHHN 300K per month 10X30 days, God of generous and rich boos, locate me oooo lool).
He has tried to make her see reasons but she still complains , complains, makes trouble , afraid that she could loose him etc etc.
He needs advice and an opinion poll. Should he quit the job since he plans marrying her? What can he do to have peace with his fiancee?
Having worked offshore and seen this kind of thing first hand, I will advice that he moves on. You need a partner that understands the kind of job you do and is willing to compromise and accept you.
ReplyDeleteThat someone doesn't understand or won't accept it doesn't make the person bad. It's just their preference.
It will be really unfair of him to keep insisting that she accepts his job. I watched lots of relationships and marriages break painfully because of offshore work. Frustrated and cheating partners all because of circumstance.
Oga please amicably break up wth her. You will be saving her a lot of headache. Believe me, you will find a woman that will be understanding and willing to make the sacrifice.
Your job is already tough, you don't need a complicated relationship to add to it. Bribing your partner, hmmm. That sounds very unhealthy.
You've just said it all!
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DeleteDid de guy not ave de job wen he proposed to her and she accepted?
ReplyDeleteIf dey dated what work was he doing.? Did his source of livelihood change over nite.?
In this recession time you want to quit your job . My brother abeg go ahead if you will be happy to be jobless as your are about to start your family.
As Ccidi RH said if she cant deal with your kind of work and you guys cant find a common ground on the issue. Please let her go for both your peace of mind. Cos the problem will not go away even wen you get married and pay her 10k for every nite you are away.
Please send him to me... I need the money. See someone that they are putting sugar in her mouth and she wants to spit it out....
ReplyDeleteMy sister I support oo,biko chidinma send him to adaeze ..
DeleteI won't give her penny
ReplyDeleteMbok make he move on,who d heck would not b happy dt her fiance is paying her 10k per day,per day oo..plss n pls let him move on..
ReplyDeleteDear friends pls don't be in a hurry to judge the lady. Myself, I never liked offshore job till I worked with an offshore servicing company. My guy sit ur lady down, ask her what she doesn't like about the job. I think she needs to be enlightened on your type of job. Her fears might be; 1- she doesn't like the length of time spent working. Make her undstnd its how the job comes n when u are on "time of" ul spend a month with her before u return to work. 2 - Her fear cud be the relationship is insecure with ur offshore job. Make her undstnd dt 90% of offshore workers are men so she has you ALL TO HERSELF. 3 - Her fear cud be she already knows the risk on the job. All she can do is to pray continuously for you cos the money is needed to take the relationship to the next level. You dnt offer money to keep a woman. She did well by not accepting the 10k. Dont break up with her if u truly luv her. Just dialogue well n ur relationship wud be fine.
ReplyDeleteShe should be grateful for what she has and not let fear take it away from her......Girl, shut the complaining ......Get your silly knees on the ground and pray for your man if you really love him with all your heart......Pray like your life depends on it!......
ReplyDeleteIf he is broke, will she still want him..... Bro if she keeps making trouble......
Move on with your life.
Period.
My father my father,!!!!!! Answer me by fireeeeeeeeeeee. Send this boo my wayyyyyyyy.#speakingintongues
ReplyDeleteAmen ooo..I prophecy into ur life,Amen
ReplyDeleteThank u ooo, my sister imagine that kin orishirishi of a fiancee who doesn't even appreciate God at all
ReplyDeleteAs in some babes r just funny..
ReplyDeleteQuit fire ...is he crazy ni..my husband used have the same job...i spent xmas alone ..one time i was sick ..my mom in law travelled all the way to pick me up...if he quits ..how will they survive ..thats when the main problem will start..she should manage ...he needs to working for peace to reign ..trust me sshe will not like a jobless guy..his work environment is as safe as ever...he works with shell..shell is an oil company not servicing company like slb ..he practically does nothing ...about explosives...this explosive are way hundreds of thousands feet below..and the servicing company like slb does the shooting with a laptop..probably she likes suffer...my dear guy do not quit ur job..my husband used to work with an oil service company ..i know what it takes to be an oil workers wife ..oil work no easy these days
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