I am going to be 33 this year, and I came from a family of achievers. My dad retired from Chevron and had a PhD with many publications . My mum too is a professor and super intelligent.
My siblings and I are super smart as well, in fact we have only 1 second class upper graduate in the family, the rest of us bagged first class.
I stayed single till date because I've been unable to meet my kind of guy. Are there still very intelligent Nigerian men? The ones I meet it's either their confidence stems from their big dicks or money made from illegitimate means. Where are the JIM Ovia's, Tony Elumelu's etc of this age?
I finally decided to reduce my expectations and met a good looking guy , doing a small business. He speaks well and all, but I stumbled upon his academic record. This guy had a Third Class. If he tries touching me these days, I don't get wet or turned on. I just imagine how lousy he must have been in school while his mates were studying and I fear I may have a dumb child or children if any inherits his intelligence.
What do I do?
If she want to get a super intelligent guys it will be hard though they are there. What I know is that you can't get everything in a person. Try more
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ReplyDeleteI think so. My mum and late dad are smart. My mum is particularly intelligent and we turned out smart.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I had to reply because in a way I can relate to your post. I think you can be described as 'sapiosexual' i.e. you get stimulated or excited by a person who is deep, intelligent and widely knowledgeable. I don't think settling is a good idea. Imagine going out with your boo to an event, then you meet 'your kind of man' and get involved in this stimulating discourse and time just goes by. Boo is totally forgotten and you even resent being with the poor guy....that's just the least of it. To be realistic though, our grading system in Nigeria is NOT a measure of intelligence. I know some 1st class graduates who cannot function outside the academic environment. If your boo speaks English correctly and can hold his own in discussions on varied topics, giving factual and intelligent points then he is good enough darling. You are not going to have dumb children, not if they are trained and schooled properly. You may also need to evaluate what you term as 'dumb'. Perhaps not use your family as a yardstick? Finally dear, DO YOU. If you truly feel only a genius will make you happy, then go get him girl. You might have to make serious changes though. You know, find and go where the fish are...
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DeleteYou took the words right off my mouth. Great response!
ReplyDeleteA lot of people who were sound in school are no where in the society today. A lot of others who were dummies are calling the shots their environment.
ReplyDeleteI am talking of all round influence; or all round lack of it.
That's or all that matters at the end of the day. Anyone who studies will be rewarded. Our grading systems in Nigeria have shown that.
Lol!!!! I feel you my dear. The reason why marriages are failing today is because we are reducing our standards and accepting whatever comes our way. While it is good to be married, it is best to be happily married so pls don't compromise your standards. Even your senses are already repelling.
ReplyDeleteSeriously. If that is enough to get her turned off physically then it's very important to her. Let her find her level. Marriage is forever...
DeleteWell if that's her priority to d extent that it affects how she feels about the guy. Then it's worth going for cos believe me after the ceremony of wedding comes the true features that cement the relationship. Features that will make you look back and nod happily for making the right choice. I wish her d best
ReplyDeleteSecondly academic qualifications does not necessarily tell true state of intelligence as it can be affected by many factors like wrong course choice, wrong orientation, unconducive learning environment, poverty, hunger, etc. That is why you see many Nigerians who go abroad to study make first class yet they were termed failures in Nigeria. So, the guy might be intelligent and may not necessarily give you dumb babies. Studies have shown that the baby gets most of his/her intelligence from the mother. My only worry with poor academic qualifications is that the person may not get a well paid job cos of academic qualifications and that for me is a turn off. I have met guys with first class that are dumb and can't make meaningful conversations and I ask myself " How manage this one get first class"
ReplyDeleteChildren inherit intelligence genes from their mother. So she shouldn't worry so much about their father.Also she should bear it in mind that she can't get everything in life as desired.She should come down a bit and be more realistic in life cos there's no perfect being.
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DeletePray.
ReplyDeleteMarry Urself
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ReplyDeleteYes supported . she can marry herself
ReplyDeleteHonestly certificates doesn't impress me one bit! There are smart people, there are intelligent people, clever people and wise people. There are guys who are super skillful but bad at oratory. .... What am trying to say is, forget the certificate, when you converse with your man are you filled with admiration and respect? If yes then stay hooked to him. For instance, my husband can do all kinds of arithmetic in seconds, analyse quantitative variables, very skillful, and innovative, etc but when it comes to speaking big vocabulary and phonetics count him out! So my dear, most men don't have it all.
ReplyDeleteLet her look for love: a man that will love her for who she is and that she will love. Other things are primary!
ReplyDeleteU actually mean other things are secondary..
DeleteThe honest truth is that, you can't judge someone based on the result he or she graduated with from a Nigerian University... I do agree INTELLIGENCE is genetic but you can only tell if someone is intelligent when you get talking, a lot of people never had the enabling environment to bring out the best in them.
ReplyDeleteStill remain single .........ibidobele.......INA acho wole shoyinka....the best Nigerian barrister came out with third class.....duo his late now
ReplyDeleteI must say that your standards should be maintained but on the other coin side, your qualification shouldn't b a yard stick to the choice of man you long for. I am a perfect example bcos I was intimidated in school from all angles but still resisted but not to the level I wanted even though i lacked nothing too from my parents. Hey, brilliant and intelligent guys/ girls in our schooling system who go through different challenges(Emotional, Physical and otherwise) trying to meet up with standards training themselves but the resistive forces are much. They finally make do wit whatever grade they come out with. Dear, be thankful that you are privileged and when you want it all you may not grow. U know much already so I need not say too many. Make your man who you want him to be at dis point besides he is a graduate. Business men and women employ graduates with first class K. Think with your head lady because from all comments, everyone is telling you the truth but if you refuse just start thinking about remaining single. OYO oooooo.
ReplyDeleteCorrect answer my amiable man CC Dike. I wish I knew this her boyfriend in question......I would have talked him out of any relationship with her. Dumb kids my foot.
ReplyDeleteFrom my own opinion, an intelligent man is all you need for a happy and fulfilled marriage. He will do every thing in the right proportion and at the right time. LOVE is not enough. Eg. An intelligent man may not have money as at the time you meet him but can land the best job/business in a short while if opportunity presents itself etc#ponder#
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