Wednesday, 16 June 2021

DEAR SINGLE LET NOBODY MARRIAGE SHAME YOU!


 

Ok so you are single, above 30 and female moreso in Nigeria /Africa. The popular phrase ‘Go and marry’ will not be new to you. I have been marriage shamed countless times that I have become immune looool. Well, I’m different sorta as I am wired differently. Things that move most women do not move me asuch like seeking validation from a person or spouse to feel whole, complete or seeking approval from another human.

Women face pressure from themselves, their mothers, their sisters, relatives and their friends when it comes to getting married. Even some very close married friends tend to cut you off when they have a ring and are married. Patriarchy has managed to fool women into thinking they need men or marriage even in the so called good marriages to feel complete, whole, validated and approved of.

I laughed so hard when OAP Toke Makinwa took to social media to lament saying she thought it was rude that she was being asked when she was going to get married, that she would not be beautiful forever😅.